What Is Sex Therapy?
Helping clients maximize their potential for sexual satisfaction, pleasure, and happiness is one of our greatest privileges at Ellis Evaluation & Consulting Services. Sex therapy provides a safe, confidential, supportive, and respectful environment for you to explore concerns related to sexual function, sexuality, sexual feelings, intimacy, as well as sexual relationships individually or with your partner. We work with clients across the lifespan, of all sexual orientations and genders (i.e., gay, heterosexual/straight, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex, kinky, poly).
While some sexual concerns are easily solved with a trip to the physician’s office, sexuality related problems are often complicated by emotional, cultural, behavioral, and/or mental health issues and require the assistance of a mental health professional with training and experience in both psychotherapy and sex therapy.
Sexuality often develops in secret and without open discussion of what it means to be a sexual being. Although sexuality is an integral part of being human, we live in a culture that does not support true sexual health. Consequently, our approach to treatment and evaluation incorporates a holistic appreciation of the physical, behavioral, psychological, relationship, and spiritual factors that contribute to your sexual concerns. We enjoy helping clients create the kind of change that makes them happier, more fulfilled individuals both in and out of the bedroom.
Areas of Treatment Specialization Include:
- Physical Intimacy
- Low or Mismatched Desire
- Problems with Orgasm
- Recovery from Sexual Abuse or Sexual Assault
- Rapid or Delayed Ejaculation
- Helping Parents Discuss Sexual Matters with Their Children/Adolescents
- Child and Adolescent Specific Sexual Issues (e.g., problems related to watching pornography and/or "sexting", establishing and maintaining physical and sexual boundaries, navigating romantic or sexual feelings)
- Gender Identity Issues
- Out of Control Sexual Behavior (OCSB)/ "Sex Addiction"
- Questioning (i.e., anxiety or uncertainty about sexual orientation)
- Aging and Sexuality
- Medication, Medical Illness, and Sexuality
- Erectile Problems
- Fertility Concerns
- Coping with a Sexually Transmitted Infection/HIV/AIDS Diagnosis
- Alternative Sexualities
- Sexual Pain
- Sexuality Education
Individual therapy sessions generally last 45 minutes. It is possible, however, to schedule 90 minute sessions for couples. Dr. Ellis is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. We conduct a thorough assessment during the first few sessions to assist with determining an effective, problem-centered plan to address the issue(s) bringing you to treatment. The assessment will include obtaining a thorough understanding of your concerns, personal and family history, medical history, and your goals for treatment.
To be clear, sex therapy does not involve any sexual contact between the therapist and you or your partner. Instead, our work together will include discussing your developmental and sexual history, assessing your aptitudes, obtaining a thorough understanding of your current sexual functioning and sexual problem(s), providing psychoeducation, addressing mental health, emotional, and behavioral factors that may be contributing to your difficulties, as well as teaching behavioral and/or communication skills. We tailor therapeutic interactions to meet each client's unique constellation of issues.
Online Therapy Groups
Sexual Health Group for Men
Overcoming Out of Control Sexual Behavior
About the Group
Individuals who struggle with Out of Control Sexual Behavior (OCSB) frequently feel compelled to submit to overwhelming sexual impulses in spite of negative consequences. The behaviors are generally recurrent, intense, distressing, and frequently are accompanied by anxiety, self-judgment, a sense of hopelessness, embarrassment, regret, guilt, and shame. This group welcomes men who are struggling with sexual urges, thoughts, and behaviors that feel intrusive or difficult to control. The negative effects of consensual OSCB frequently include:
- Interpersonal problems
- Loss of spouse or partner
- Sexually transmitted infections/HIV/Unplanned pregnancy
- Financial or legal difficulties
- Relapse in drug and alcohol recovery
- Job loss or diminished work productivity
In this group, you will learn skills to help you regain control of your sexual behavior, strengthen your relationships, and develop a personal vision of sexual health. The group will additionally help you assess and identify the underlying factors that led to the OSCB. We provide both healing and support from a sex positive perspective. Groups are offered online to residents of California, Georgia, and Tennessee. Screening and assessment prior to selection for group membership is required. All group members must attend individual therapy with a therapist of their choice throughout group membership. If you are interested in improving your sexual health, you may benefit from joining this group.
Cost: $60/group session
Please Note: This group is specifically designed for men who are engaging in consensual sexual behavior. Individuals involved in/seeking treatment for non-consensual sexual behavior (i.e., rape, molestation, frotteurism, coercive sex, voyeurism, exhibitionism, etc.) will be referred to local specialists.
Women's Sexuality Group
About the Group
We offer an on-line sex therapy group for women struggling with any aspect of sexuality. Many of the women in this group have low sexual desire, sexual pain, inhibitions that limit their sexual pleasure, are not able to orgasm, or want to increase their level of healthy sexuality. This group is open to women 21 years of age and older, of any sexual orientation, and who are single or in a relationship. The intention of this group is to provide a safe space for you to share, listen, and learn from other women to also have identified an area in their sexual life in which they want to grow.
In this group, you will learn skills to help you have more fulfilling sex lives and intimate relationships. The group will additionally help you assess and identify the underlying factors that have contributed to your area of difficulty. We provide both healing and support from a sex positive perspective. Groups are offered online for residents of California, Georgia, and Tennessee. Screening prior to selection for group membership is required. If you are interested in improving your sexual satisfaction, you may benefit from joining this group.
Cost: $60/group session
Please Note: This group is specifically designed for women who are engaging in consensual sexual behavior. Individuals involved in/seeking treatment for non-consensual sexual behavior (i.e., rape, molestation, frotteurism, coercive sex, voyeurism, exhibitionism, etc.) will be referred to local specialists.